Hm…. So Mee finally got me writing:

First off Hi ! I’m not Vam I’m “Am” , her sister ! My actual name however is Amiya! So Mee says Valentine’s Day = Lame day because relationships are lame … I both agree and disagree with her ! Valentine’s day = Lame day , OH YES ! Truer than words can explain ! however , relationships are lame : not so much !

I think that being single , I can’t really say much about relationships as such however I do agree that those who are in the absolutely obsessive relationships (look at Mee’s 3 points ) : PLEASE please please , GET A LIFE ! I dare , plead , beg you to !

Okay so whithout making any more IBness flow out and bore you , Here’s my list of 14 Reasons why Valentine’s Day is LAME :

14. It tries to make the single people feel sad , hence taking away the very basic right to be yourself and happy about it , it creates a stereotype for happiness : You have someone to be with on Valentine’s Day = You are happy ! to which all I want to say is EXCUSE ME ? Here’s the no. of the mental hospital : Go see a Psychiatrist !!

I am single and I CAN BE happy on Valentine’s day ! AND you know what I AM !

13. It’s a stressor even for people in love (Supposedly or Truly- in love that is ;) ) ! What should I Buy ? How do I find a new way to say “I love you” ??

Blah Blah Blah !! (No offence to the commited but being Single rocks! – I think :P )

12. Valentine’s Day as we all know stands for “Saint Valentine’s Day” , well , What was it that Saint Valentine did that the so called “day of love “ is named after him ? Well That is UNKOWN ! This is what Wikipedia says :

“Numerous early Christian martyrs were named Valentine. The Valentines honored on February 14 are Valentine of Rome (Valentinus presb. m. Romae) and Valentine of Terni (Valentinus ep. Interamnensis m. Romae). Valentine of Rome was a priest in Rome who was martyred about AD 269 and was buried on the Via Flaminia. His relics are at the Church of Saint Praxed in Rome, and at Whitefriar Street Carmelite Church in Dublin, Ireland.

No romantic elements are present in the original early medieval biographies of either of these martyrs. By the time a Saint Valentine became linked to romance in the fourteenth century, distinctions between Valentine of Rome and Valentine of Terni were utterly lost.^”

So basically we are celebrating something we don’t really know much about and calling people our “Valentine(s)” WITHOUT knowing what that means ! The name of the “holiday” is almost BOGUS !

11. It’s a “HALLMARK HOLIDAY” which is to say that it exists only because of commercial reasons and does not have a tradition to commemorate which is religious or non-religious !

Basically the point of the “holiday” is that it makes a LOT of MONEY for greeting card , chocolate and other companies that make the things YOU buy for Valentine’s day ! I would call that a “ I’m going to give my hard-earned money to the companies selling merchandise that I don’t want or need because they make me believe that I SHALL be Unhappy/UNLOVED without this merchandise”

10. It isn’t even a celebration of love ! It is a celebration of the stupidity of the people who celebrate it despite the above 4 points !

9. It materializes LOVE the one thing that SHOULD be left free for all because EVERYONE without exception DESERVES TO BE LOVED !!

8. It isn’t good for most people’s mental health or Love relationships ! It makes you question yourself , your love , the ones you love and their love ! How is that healthy ? Especially in this case when you question it because of the lack or presence of a present and a card ?

7. It tries to UNIVERSALLY DEFINE love and GENERALISE it for EVERYONE ! Just like beauty and attraction love isn’t meant to be generalized or universally defined ! Its very beauty lies in its complexity and mystery ! It is NOT meant to be a mathematical equation after all !

6. It unfairly raises expectations : “If s/he loves me , I’ll be sent a present !“ “Today is the day of love therefore I WILL find my true love today! ” etc. etc. All of this is , excuse my language : A LOAD OF CRAP ! Its just another day , just another 14^th day of a month ! Nothing is going to happen that cannot happen on any other day !

5. At the risk of being called a non-romantic : It just disrupts the regular flow of life and work !

4. It gives out labels : if you celebrate it then you are “loved , in love” etc. and if you don’t you are a “ V-Day hater , lonely depressed single person” etc etc. which just isn’t right !

3. It trivializes the very thing it claims to celebrate : LOVE ! Love is a constant thing if your are in love it isn’t for a day every-year ! Its for a long time , longer than 24 hrs at least ! It just like Mother’s Day or Father’s Day or Grandparents Day : I have them in my life and if I truly appreciate it then my daily actions will show it better than any gift or card that I might give once a year !

2. It defines a time for expressing , appreciating , acknowledging , feeling LOVE ! things that we should be doing everyday ! at the same time it also gives people an excuse to ignore love on other days ! Which is just : Stupid , Lame , Dumb …. Etc etc.

1. It makes your love lose its individuality ! After all YOUR love isn’t like anyone else’s love just like you its UNIQUE and this uniqueness should be celebrated ! So Why celebrate it the same day and in the same way as a few million other people?

Celebrate your love in your own way ! That will mean SOO much more !

That was my list !

Now because I LOVE reason number 1 , Here is how to use it :

· Pick your own personal “Day of Love” ( I refuse to call it Valentine’s day) , in a month , season that you like , go ahead ! Pick a number or day you like or a date that is special to YOU and YOUR LOVED ONE !

· Do something that is special to you two ! Don’t let the world define how you love and express your love !

· If you give cards and presents let them be personalized or hand-made instead of store bought ! Instead of Red Roses use birthflowers , the other person’s favourite fowers , make a card and write your heart out in it IN YOUR OWN WORDS !

· Basically just do what you LOVE with the one you love after all its all to Celebrate love a little more than every other day that you celebrate it by living it

Thank you for reading !